Challenge Day 4: Build Your Confidence and Self-esteem

Editor’s note: This is part of  30-day challenge series written by Hanane Anouna.   You can follow along and read the full series here.

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“What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think”– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Your limiting beliefs as discussed in the last article can become convictions that constraint you from getting what you want if you do nothing about them. Self-debt can destroy your dreams, weaken your self-esteem, and negatively impact your self-confidence.

Challenging your own limiting beliefs can turn into a complete transformation when coupled with the right attitudes and the appropriate actions.

 You may be wondering what is the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence.

Self-esteem It is how you feel about yourself, if you are worthy, deserve great relations and great success. It reflects your level of self-respect. It is about the value you give to yourself independently of what others think of you. People with low self-esteem will find themselves in need of constant approval from others. They keep comparing themselves to others and they have a negative self-talk.  They say YES when they have to say No. They don’t accept their limitations and they can envy others. They often don’t take actions to improve their emotional and physical health.

Don’t confuse self-esteem with self-image. Your self-image is what other people think of you, and your self-esteem is what you think about yourself.

Self-confidence has to do with your interactions with the external world. It is knowing what you can do and what you cannot do. It reflects your faith about your own abilities to accomplish specific tasks. People with high self-confidence are flexible, ask for help when needed, and avoid judgments. Self-confidence may vary from one situation to another as you may be confident in certain aspects while not confident in others.

A high self-esteem leads often to high confidence while an enhanced confidence does not reflect necessarily a high self-esteem.

There are many people who are confident, have great positions and successful careers but they have very low self-esteem. Their worth and value are linked to the external resources, how much money they possess, how many friends they are surrounded with, etc. Once these resources are gone, these people, most often, find it difficult to start again.

To develop more self-confidence is also about enhancing your own self-esteem and making an end to your limiting beliefs.

Building your confidence or self-esteem is not about a magical formula as it requires a lot of patience and persistence. You don’t become confident only by reading this article. You become confident when you learn to combine all the strategies below.

Here 11 tips to consider from my own perspective:

You develop more confidence and self-esteem when you are coherent between what you say and how you act as people can feel it.

When your actions are aligned with your values, and your beliefs; you walk the talk.

When you have a clear vision of the person you would like to become and the destination you are willing to take. A lot of people are going nowhere.

When you wake up every day with a plan and you thrive to accomplish your daily goals.